how to improve your relationships now by 180 degrees

Problems in relationships are often maintained or even aggravated by the way we try to solve them.

  • Do you ever think you know what is needed to fix the problem and then keep on trying to make whatever that is happen?
     
  • Do you ever keep doing or saying the same thing to try to make the other person change?

If you answered yes to either of those two questions, then it is time to pull your head out of the sand and think again, because what you are doing isn’t working!

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Q&A (4) : How many people can you really be authentic with?

Dear Sarah,

I lead around 30 people. Obviously I have my own workload which keeps me very busy but recognise the importance of taking time to build relationships. How do I get that balance? If I spend lots of time building relationships then I have no time to do my own work.  Is it possible to have authentic relationships with everyone? How do I make even a brief interaction in the day more authentic?

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Is admitting to loneliness the last taboo?

It certainly feels so to me. There are plenty of things I freely admit to but somehow confessing that there are times when I feel lonely feels so much harder for some reason.

Maybe that is because I somehow think I 'shouldn't' feel lonely or I ‘ought’ not to feel lonely. After all, I have a wide circle of friends, a loving husband and a son who is still young enough to want to hang out with his mother. I often tell myself that I have no right to feel lonely... and yet there are times when I most definitely do.
 

What I have come to understand is that loneliness isn’t about the quantity or even the quality of relationships we have. It is subjective. It is caused by feeling emotionally or socially disconnected from those around us and that can happen to any of us.
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